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Is it forced or had to?

Well, does the title make a sense? I don’t know, but here is a situation. I am desperate to have a car. Not because I want to, but because I had to. Have you heard people buy a car because of the necessity to buy it and they suddenly buy it? Well, that’s me now. Truthfully, I do not have confidence to drive a car yet. Moreover, I do not have enough money, so why should I buy a car? And to add more, I am not stable yet. So, why should I burden myself to another debt? Adding more, my plan is to have house first than to have a car. But because of this situation, I had to buy a car. It’s only a reason right? So, how should I handle this situation? I am confused. I am in terrible mood because of this matter. I can live without car, but then I will face great difficulties in the next three months, but if I buy a car, I will face more difficulties in the next year. But looking at the other side, if I really buy a car, I will need to discipline myself to plan carefully about m...

Money and old cloth

In malay, money is call as ‘duit’ pronounced it as “du-it”. I know a lot of people say money will not make you happy but the thing is without money, life will be miserable. Here I am at the age of not yet 25, has been burdened with the money problem. I hate it. My father is a farmer, but never in my life have I felt difficult. Well, of course my life is not luxury, but I never face a situation where I cannot eat because of money. My father train us to live as it is, and always be thankful to what I had. And for that I am very thankful. I remember, when I was in university, when my friends are busy with cloth and make up, I do not feel the necessity to have that kind of stuff. At the age where I just get away from parents, all those things never influence me. ( maybe a bit, but I always see myself as ugly, so that’s no need for that) I do not mind wear the same cloth as long as it still can be wear and I will continue to do so, until I enter a society world, a world of occupation. ...

I am back...........:)

It's been a very long time since I update my blog. What happen to me? I don't think I am too busy until I cannot update my blog. It's 2.47 am in my place now. But during these two months, there are many things I learn about me. I learn that I hate myself that always whining and also the facts that things will not always go the way we want it to be. But preseverence and gratitude will bring you patience and hope. It just never give up. I also learn a new things, getting to know more about a friends and people. We cannot change people, but we must change our perception towards people. We cannot expect people to behave the way we want it to be, same like I do not like people tell me how i should behave. At the age of 25, it kind difficult, but accepting people's opinion and listen to them is important. It doesn't matter if I will follow what that person tell me to do, but only listen is enough. It about respect. How can I expect people to respect me when I do not respe...

Stress

In my training to be a teacher, it wasn’t easy at all. Class start at 8 am, and I only arrived home at 7 pm and at night I need to do a lot of assignments. The word stress always come out from me and my friends So today, I will share something about stress. I got email about this matter and thought that I might share it as well. Stress" can often be a subjective term with many connotations, but most often it refers to the state of feeling pressured, rushed, overwhelmed, threatened, frightened or anxious. Stress can present itself in many different ways, but it can also be caused by many different events and situations - which will differ from person to person. Something that causes me stress may not bother you in the least, while something that I could handle just fine would throw you into a tailspin. It all depends on each individual's ability to handle the things that happen to them on a daily basis. However, we often have more than one cause of stress in our lives,...

life is about choices......

Before, I wrote about life and choices, and my friend always talked about 90/10 principles and I just read it yesterday and I want to share with everyone. It’s by Stephen Covey : Discover the 90/10 principles It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations) What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plan will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? …….. by your reaction, You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don’t let people fool you; YOU can control how you react. Let’s use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee o...

Life is about........

It’s been a very long time since I update my blog. I have poor time management and most of it because lack of discipline. Writing about discipline, I should practice more as I will be a teacher and of course I expect my future students to have a good discipline. I hate rules, and I read that rules are meant to be broken. Is it? But, discipline people usually a successful person. Today, in my psychology class, we learnt about choice. ( I am a student training to be an English teacher, before this I have a degree in political science, but change my direction to go to teaching profession) Before this, I used to think that for largely what happen to us not because of choice but because of circumstances force us to be . Because of this topic, I asked a lot of questions to my lecturer. I gave her this situation, . say that I am driving in a highway and on that road, I saw a terrible accident and it’s not my choice to watch that horrible thing. Then my lecturer, Dr Tan, asked, w...

How far will you do to do something?

How far will you do to do something? Are you like me who always in a crossroads each time trying to make adecision? Even on simple thing? Well, sadly that’s me. Tomorrow I will having a camping for four days and three night, but somehow I do not feel excited about it. Well maybe because I do not like camping on the first place, but used to be I will be very excited to do this kind of thing, but for this one, I just don’t feel anything, maybe a little scared as some person has make a hearsay how tiring and pressured it will be. Well, it not exactly a camping, but more to development building character camping. And usually in this kind of thing, a lot of thing that people hate will be doing. Ok, I am stray away from what I should say. Actually about decision making, it is not an easy thing to do. Don’t talk about satisfying other people needs, even our own need is very difficult to satisfy. There will always be something not enough in our life, in all aspects, that’s why pe...