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This is taken from Don’t be sad book from Aaidh Ibn Abdullah al-Qarni Dale Carnegie related a story of a man who had an ulcer that became aggravated to a dangerous level. Doctors informed him that he had very little time to live. They insinuated that it would be wise for him to make funeral arrangements. Suddenly Hani - the patient made a spontaneous decision : he thought to himself that if he had such a little time left to live, why not enjoy it to the utmost? He thought, “how often have I wished to travel around the world before I die. This is certainly the chance to realize my dreams. “ he bought his ticket and when the doctors became aware of his plans, they were shocked. They said to him, “We most strongly remonstrate with you and warn you: If yo go forward on this journey you will be buried at the bottom of the ocean.” Their arguments were in vain and he only answered, “No, nothing of the sort will happen. I have promised my relatives that I will come back to be buried in the...

I quote this from Dale Carnegie book, which I recommend it to all to read. Win people to your way of thinking 1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. 2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong." 3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. 4. Begin in a friendly way. 5. Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately. 6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking. 7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers. 8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view. 9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires. 10. Appeal to the nobler motives. 11. Dramatize your ideas. 12. Throw down a challenge. But, I really like no 1 to 4, because it always happen to me that I always meet people who always want to win in whatever they say. So, number 1 to no 4 is what I always try to practice. Once I was a person who always want to win in argument, ...

The reason I like to read Dale Carnegie books or get lesson from him is because what he said is true and can be a lesson for me so that I can improve on myself. Once i wish that i will stop learning, because learning is a very tiring process, but now, i know learning is need to be done all the time, without stop. One of the way is to read a good book. I also like romance book, even though me myself still looking and waiting for romance. What I going to write is about what Dale Carnegie said is about Fundamental Techniques in Handling People, that are Don't criticize, condemn or complain. Give honest and sincere appreciation. Arouse in the other person an eager want. Have you ever met a person who like to criticize, condemn and even complain? For me, I have. In the law of attraction, if you criticize, condemn and complain, you will make more of the thing that you don't like. Example, when you complaining about not getting a parking space, you heart is in terrible mood. Th...

I was introduced to Dale Carnegie book by my friend Diya. I love her. Let me tell about her. I met her in matriculation centre of my university in 2002. She treat me very nice and talk to me and always answer my questions. She is very talkative. I am a person with a low self confidence, but the way she treat me make me felt very appreciative. I know a lot of things from her. She also do not show her arrogance even though her family is very well off and some of her uncles are very rich and have a high position in society. I believe now Diya has become a lawyer and hopefully a wife. But sadly, I iam bad at maintaining the relationship. I lost contact with her. The thing is, before I met her, I rarely met a person that will treat me nicely. Only a few and coming to new place in that matriculation centre and meet her, I felt very grateful. Even my schoolmate that went to the same matriculation centre hinted to me that she do not want to be friend with me because she will loosen out the opp...