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  I am 42 this year, and I recently discovered something that my friend warned me about years ago. At the time, I didn’t think much of it, but now, I realize how right they were. They told me, “If you don’t work on your self-esteem while you’re young, it will affect your life later on.” Well, here I am, 42, living proof of how true that statement is. I’m someone who has struggled with low self-esteem for most of my life, and it still lingers, affecting me in ways that I never imagined when I was younger. It’s not just an abstract feeling that you can ignore—it shows up in the small, everyday moments and, unfortunately, in some of the bigger ones too. The Daily Struggles of Low Self-Esteem You might think low self-esteem is just about lacking confidence in social settings, but it’s deeper than that. It can impact your decisions, your relationships, and how you see your own worth. For me, this manifests in several ways: Overthinking : I replay conversations in my head, wonderin...

  What is a Vision Board? A vision board is a visual representation of your goals, dreams, and aspirations. It acts as a powerful tool to help clarify, concentrate, and maintain focus on specific life objectives. By combining images, quotes, affirmations, and personal elements, a vision board becomes a tangible reminder of what you aim to achieve. The concept is rooted in visualization, which is a technique often used in personal development and success strategies. Why Create a Vision Board? Clarity of Goals : Helps you define what truly matters in your life. Motivation : Provides daily inspiration and encouragement. Focus : Keeps your mind aligned with your goals, minimizing distractions. Manifestation : Some believe that seeing your goals regularly helps manifest them into reality through focus and positive energy. How to Create a Vision Board Set Your Intentions : Reflect on areas of life you want to focus on—career, relationships, health, travel, personal growth, or finan...

  Living with low self-esteem isn’t just a fleeting feeling of inadequacy—it’s a deep-rooted struggle that colors how someone sees themselves, others, and the world around them. For those who don’t experience it, it can be hard to understand the invisible challenges faced by people grappling with low self-esteem. These struggles go far beyond occasional self-doubt and affect every facet of life, from relationships to careers and personal well-being. 1. The Constant Inner Critic People with low self-esteem often live with a relentless inner critic. This voice magnifies every flaw, criticizes every decision, and makes even small mistakes feel monumental. To outsiders, this might look like perfectionism or overthinking, but it’s more than that. It’s a battle against self-doubt that can paralyze decision-making and sap joy from achievements. For example, a compliment might feel insincere or undeserved because their inner critic is quick to dismiss it. “They’re just being polite,” th...

  I have been working for more than 17 years, earning money for my survival, and I am very thankful for the life that I have, even though it wasn’t easy. I fought countless battles inside me—battles that no one else could see or understand. These were battles with self-doubt, fear, and a constant tug-of-war between wanting to belong and needing to be alone. I thought that as I grew older, as life progressed, I would become stronger and more prepared to face whatever challenges came my way. But instead of gaining strength, I found myself retreating further into my shell, distancing myself from the very people I needed to connect with. I chose to stay away from people, preferring to walk alone. At first, it felt like the right decision. Solitude brought peace, clarity, and a sense of control that I couldn’t find in the chaos of social interactions. But over time, I realized that this choice came with its own set of challenges. Life doesn’t allow you to exist in a vacuum. The work ...

      Confidence is often seen as a natural part of life. We admire confident people, gravitate toward them, and celebrate their boldness. But have we ever paused to consider that confidence, for many, is not a given? It is, in fact, a privilege – one that not everyone possesses. For those who struggle with confidence, life can feel like navigating an uphill battle. They are often misunderstood, mislabeled as distant, cold, or unsocial. What’s hidden beneath these assumptions is a reality of internal struggle, self-doubt, and the yearning to belong. The Invisible Struggle Confidence issues are deeply personal and often invisible. To someone battling low self-esteem, even everyday interactions can feel like insurmountable challenges. Saying hello to a stranger, speaking up in a meeting, or sharing an opinion can seem trivial to the confident, but these moments can be overwhelming for someone who constantly questions their worth. When society equates confidence with success...

 Minimalism has become a powerful movement in recent years, influencing lifestyles, homes, and mindsets across the world. It is not merely about having fewer possessions but rather about creating space—physically, mentally, and emotionally—to focus on what truly matters. Whether you are decluttering your home, realigning priorities, or simplifying your schedule, minimalism is a path to amplify happiness and clarity in your life. What is Minimalism? Minimalism can be defined as a deliberate choice to reduce unnecessary possessions, commitments, and distractions in life. It’s about removing the excess so you can focus on what brings value, purpose, and fulfillment. By embracing a minimalist mindset, you create space for meaningful experiences, personal growth, and greater peace of mind. "Minimalism is not about having less. It’s about making room for more of what matters." The minimalist lifestyle challenges modern society’s tendency toward consumerism and accumulation. It...

  The holidays are here, and what better way to celebrate than by sharing the joy of food? Whether you're hosting a gathering or just want to add a touch of holiday magic to your meals, these simple and delicious recipes are perfect for the season. 1. Holiday Cranberry Brie Bites Perfect for appetizers that wow! Ingredients : 1 sheet puff pastry (thawed) 1 wheel Brie cheese 1/2 cup cranberry sauce Optional: chopped pecans, rosemary sprigs Steps : Preheat oven to 375°F (190°C). Cut puff pastry into 12 squares and press into a muffin tin. Place a cube of Brie in each square, top with cranberry sauce, and sprinkle pecans on top. Bake for 15 minutes until golden and puffy. Garnish with rosemary and serve warm! 2. One-Pan Honey Glazed Carrots Sweet, savory, and a breeze to make! Ingredients : 1 lb (450g) baby carrots 2 tbsp butter 2 tbsp honey 1 tsp cinnamon Optional: fresh parsley for garnish Steps : In a skillet, melt butter over medium heat. Add carrots and sauté for 5 ...

 It is from this book, which I really recommend people to read.  Get The book from here  Title: Unlocking Happiness: Lessons from Don’t Be Sad In a world where life’s challenges can often feel overwhelming, Dr. Aaidh ibn Abdullah al-Qarni’s Don’t Be Sad stands as a timeless guide to overcoming sadness and embracing peace. This remarkable book combines profound wisdom with actionable advice, providing readers with tools to navigate difficulties with faith, gratitude, and resilience. Here, we explore the core themes and lessons from Don’t Be Sad —a book that has transformed countless lives and continues to inspire those seeking solace in tough times. 1. Finding Relief in Hardship One of the most uplifting messages in Don’t Be Sad is derived from the Quranic verse: “Verily, with hardship, there is relief.” This simple yet profound statement reminds us that no matter how heavy our burdens may feel, relief is always near. Dr. Al-Qarni emphasizes patience and trust in Go...

Finding Self-Confidence Through “Stay the Same”     Growing up, music often became a source of comfort and connection, and one song that truly stood out to me was *"Stay the Same"* by Joey McIntyre. Its lyrics about self-acceptance and self-confidence resonated with me in a way that felt both reassuring and empowering. At its heart, *"Stay the Same"* is a reminder that we don’t need to change who we are to be worthy of love and acceptance—a message that was both profound and comforting, especially as a young person navigating self-doubt and the desire to fit in. The opening line, *"Don’t you ever wish you were someone else,"* is like a gentle wake-up call. It’s so easy to fall into the habit of comparing ourselves to others, wishing for qualities we don’t have or feeling inadequate because of some perceived flaw. As a young person, hearing these words felt like a validation that who I was, as I was, was enough. It’s one of those rare reminders that our val...

 I thought life t 40's will be a walk in the park, but turn out, it ctully become harder and harder.  Embracing the Challenges of Turning 40: A Journey of Growth and Resilience Turning 40 is often seen as a milestone, a time when life is supposed to be settled and stable. However, for many women, this age can bring a unique set of challenges that are often overlooked or misunderstood. Despite societal expectations, the reality of turning 40 can be a complex mix of emotions, uncertainties, and opportunities for growth. The Myth of the "Perfect Life" at 40 Society often paints a picture of the perfect life by the age of 40: a successful career, a happy family, and a clear sense of purpose. But the truth is, many women find themselves facing significant changes and challenges during this time. Whether it's dealing with career transitions, navigating changes in personal relationships, or confronting health issues, the journey can be far from smooth. Career Transitions and...

 ### **The Thing Is… Life Needs to Go On, and On… The Continuous Battle of Every Day** Life doesn’t pause for you to catch your breath, does it? The thing is, no matter how exhausted, overwhelmed, or stretched thin we feel, life just… keeps going. There’s no "pause" button to stop the constant demands, no way to step off the treadmill and simply rest. It’s relentless. Every day is a new challenge, a new battle, especially for those of us who struggle with anxiety, low self-confidence, or the need to please others. And yet, we keep pushing forward. We have to, right? But what if the real battle isn’t just about keeping up with life? What if it’s about managing the constant war inside ourselves—the war between who we are and who we think we need to be? #### **The Exhausting Cycle of “Yes”** For those of us who are "yes" people, life is a never-ending series of obligations. It’s the struggle of constantly saying yes, even when every fiber of your being wants to say no....

 I always think how to be calm, as I am kind a person who likes to rush things, and one of the ways I think it is proven effective is by being minimalist, as the less item I have, the less worry I will be and thus less stress.  But the journey towards minimalism isn't walk in the park. It requires persistency and strong will.  Persistence in a way, that this is a life you choose to do, and you have your own why and reasons, and strong will as it really easy to be swayed and forgot your why.  Currently I am on my journey to do this, so I am not be overwhelmed by things, and instead, able to enjoy life.  I will start with my place of work, and my home and i know it will be hard and tedious process, but a process that I must do in order for me to have a good and organized life, with less worry and be calm.

 I am over thinker, who over analyse everything and things have difficult a lot of time. I want to do things, but kept delaying it, postponing it, and nothing good coming out from it. Thus, this morning, starting today, I must change my behaviour and my attitude and my mind setting, to do it, to do and do, things that I want to do, things that can give me benefits, not thinking or indulge myself in things that do not bring any benefits towards me.  I must work hard, be persistent, be strong, because nobody can help me, beside myself.  I hope this motivation will last, as I found out, I have been delaying so much time in over thinking and wasting my time in unnecessary things that do not bring me any benefits at all ... The God, will not change someone fate's until that person work hard on himself.

    Do you have hobby? Hobby is a great to help you avoidng stress and things about life that you do no like. What is your hobby? Mine is gardening, writing and used to, reading. And i guess now watching. Now, I want to talk about gardening. At first I thought gardening is easy, but turn out, it hard, and complicated and complex than I thought it would be. And it cost money to. Now, I am starting to wonder, which is better, just buy the plants or learning to plant it, as gardening, farming, is totally not for the lazy.    Gardening, as I've come to realize, is a hobby that goes beyond just growing plants; it's a journey of patience, understanding, and continuous learning. When I first decided to try my hand at gardening, I assumed it would be a simple and cost-effective way to have beautiful, vibrant plants at home. Little did I know that it would demand much more than just throwing a few seeds into the soil. One of the first lessons I learned was that gardeni...

  Gardening, it is wonderful. It started with my experience as I felt that gardening is awesome as it makes me happy. I still remember planting my first seeds and watching them sprout into seedlings. It was magical! Since then, gardening has become one of my favorite hobbies.   There's just something so satisfying about digging in the dirt, nurturing plants, and watching them grow and produce flowers, vegetables, or herbs. Gardening is a great way to get outdoors, immerse yourself in nature, and create beauty with your own two hands. I love waking up in the morning and stepping outside to see how my garden has transformed overnight. The vibrant colors of blossoms and leaves lift my mood instantly. Tending to my plants and pruning away dead leaves feels almost therapeutic. It's a calming ritual that helps me relax and reduces stress.   One of the best parts of gardening is harvesting fresh fruits, veggies and herbs. There's no comparison to the flavor of garden tomatoes or...